Do It Anyway Written By Charity Butler
The loud crash of glass shattering on the tile floor somehow resonated deeply. My heart was heavy, and a clumsy mistake generated an unexpected epiphany.
Trust, like glass, is fragile. While removing glass shards from the floor, I felt the sting of shattered trust. Unfair treatment from those close to us cracks confidence and cuts deeply. Mother Teresa’s says it best:
“People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you win false and true enemies.
The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spent years building may be destroyed overnight.
People really need help but may attack you if you help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.”
When people experience unwarranted heartache, we say silly things like, “Don’t’ worry. Time heals all wounds,” and “Remember, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”
Growing through adversity is definitely valuable. Facing challenges personally and professionally will thicken the skin and strengthen the backbone.
Difficulties cultivate depth. Problems change perspective. Obstacles create opportunities.
This article, however, is not about digging deep, toughening up, pushing through or getting gritty. As coaches, hopefully these concepts are a lifestyle we demonstrate daily and attempt to teach our players.
Today, I do not challenge you to “bow up” or “come out swinging”. I dare you to tackle unfairness in an illogical and unnatural fashion. I challenge you to forgive and it let go.
Life is not fair and sometimes it has a way of sucker-punching in the gut (or kicking in the teeth, according to Mother Teresa). Instead of staying angry or getting even, I challenge us all to get moving.
Surrounded by shattered glass, I tangibly saw the confusion and chaos brokenness brings. As I carefully, meticulously and intentionally began picking up the pieces, I processed.
The same is true when picking up the pieces after unreasonable and ill-treatment from others. Move forward carefully, not emotionally. Pain inevitably elicits emotion, but someone’s irrational actions and words are probably the initial cause of the predicament. Be willing to address problems and speak truth, but exercise caution.
Once emotions are in check, get meticulous. Sweep, vacuum, and wipe each tile by hand. Remove every glass fragment that could cause grief in the future. Could anything have been done or said differently? What can be learned or improved upon? What motives are driving the drama? Where is the potential for character development through the experience?
After analyzing, intentionally move on. When the glass of life shatters, carefully pick up the pieces, and be willing to meticulously process. Then be purposeful about the next step.
What if I had deeply gashed my finger on a piece of broken glass? Embracing the cliché that time heals all wounds, I refuse to carefully, meticulously and intentionally clean and dress the cut. Infection sets in, and without proper attention the infection grows worse, not better, over time.
Likewise, the infection of un-forgiveness will grow and spread. It will not heal on its own, no matter how much time elapses. Covering or pushing infection below the surface does not promote healing but sickness and even death.
What fights infection? Antibiotics… intentional treatment is the only viable option.
Festering bitterness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. Un-forgiveness binds us, while the glass which caused the injury could care less. Be willing to walk in the freedom of deliberate forgiveness.
To live healthy, balanced lives we must forgive. When reminded of the hurt, intentionally keep forgiving. Be resilient. With grace and strength, move forward.
Don’t feel like forgiving? Me neither. Mother Teresa tells us both to “do it anyway.”
“Greatness is best measured by how well an individual responds to the happenings in life that appear to be totally unfair, unreasonable and undeserved.” –Marvin J. Ashton
Greatness is ahead!
|Charity Butler is respected nationally & internationally as a pro athlete, writer, speaker, collegiate coach, hitting instructor and Certified Intrinsic Life Coach®.Currently, as a Pro Speaker for Sports World, Inc, Charity travels the country speaking to more than 40,000 people annually. As a recognized expert in confidence training, she also presents at various conferences, colleges & universities.Charity is the founder of Exceed Sports, LLC, and of the I Heart Fastpitch Campaign Join Charity On: Twitter, and on Instagram|
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